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When you can only see the downside of every situation and experience, you may have hardened yourself to joy, as a form of inappropriate protection. When life has thrown a series of apparent hard knocks your way, you might lower your expectations and assume things will keep going wrong to … read more

You may see all that is wrong with the world. Everyone does. And because they do, it really isn't necessary to point out to everyone what is wrong. But focusing on those things, and believing they are all that exists just brings more of the same into the world.  Nothing bad in t … read more

While growing up, not all people receive the deep human connection and love that makes them thrive. Many times in families, some of the children are favored over others. This can be a result of deep rooted beliefs that favor the oldest or male children. Or, it simply can be because of per … read more

If you live in a constant state or worry or agitation, stress hormones cascade through your body keeping many body systems activated. This can be very draining for you and can cause unwanted physical consequences. Some stress is more like excitement and helps accomplish tasks and goals. T … read more

When repetitive images plague your thoughts, your life can be consumed by your preoccupation. When your mind reviews past events, your brain and body cannot distinguish between the memory and the current experience of reliving the hurt, rejection or angry feelings. You re-enact the memori … read more

A rush of adrenaline when afraid can actually be protective. When senses are heightened, you are alert and prepared to react to danger. This flight or fight reaction is critical for survival.  If however you hold onto fear once the immediate danger is over, the constant state o … read more

When you are criticized over and over, you may freeze. Speaking up and defending yourself against a bully, even one who calls themselves your friend, may feel impossible. If you try to tell them how you feel, they insist they are right. When someone usually makes you uncomfortabl … read more

You feel left out and taken for granted. You want to be included but the invitation doesn’t come. You think if you change this or that about yourself, you will be noticed. Losing a few pounds, buying a new car or home will not solve this longing. On a deeper level you desire to be cl … read more

By our very nature, humans are emotional beings. When you are struck by a traumatic event, you can become lost in overwhelming feelings. It is almost as if your hair is on fire and you lash out at others with fear and panic. If you speak without thinking, like a forest fire, you can … read more