There are moments in your life when you feel you can't please all the people who make demands on you. Family members,close friends, and others may project their need for your attention and convey to you that you are not enough; not a good enough parent, friend, partner, parent, emplo … read more

You feel left out and taken for granted. You want to be included but the invitation doesn’t come. You think if you change this or that about yourself, you will be noticed. Losing a few pounds, buying a new car or home will not solve this longing. On a deeper level you desire to be cl … read more

A rush of adrenaline when afraid can actually be protective. When senses are heightened, you are alert and prepared to react to danger. This flight or fight reaction is critical for survival.  If however you hold onto fear once the immediate danger is over, the constant state o … read more

When you are criticized over and over, you may freeze. Speaking up and defending yourself against a bully, even one who calls themselves your friend, may feel impossible. If you try to tell them how you feel, they insist they are right. When someone usually makes you uncomfortabl … read more

You feel left out and taken for granted. You want to be included but the invitation doesn’t come. You think if you change this or that about yourself, you will be noticed. Losing a few pounds, buying a new car or home will not solve this longing. On a deeper level you desire to be cl … read more

By our very nature, humans are emotional beings. When you are struck by a traumatic event, you can become lost in overwhelming feelings. It is almost as if your hair is on fire and you lash out at others with fear and panic. If you speak without thinking, like a forest fire, you can … read more

When we feel we have been emotionally damaged, sometimes we are projecting the baggage we carry onto others, when they are actually innocent. In other cases, we are bruised and find the perfect situation or individual to reenact our original wounding. You may find yourself in the sam … read more

When your face flushes with the feeling that you have made a mistake and embarrassed yourself, you may freeze. You can’t see beyond the immediate moment and the whole world may seem to implode upon itself. This experience might cause you to be fearful, preventing you from moving alon … read more

When you see everything around you as a potential threat to your status or security, being confrontational becomes a habit. If personal self esteem depends on how you stack up against others you may find yourself in a constant state of competition, where you constantly judge others. … read more